14 Rules for Being YOU

Be yourself.  Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are.  Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else.  Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms.  And above all, be true to YOU – if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.

Starting today…

1. Get your priorities straight. – Twenty years from now it won’t really matter what shoes you wore today, how your hair looked, or what brand of jeans you bought.  What will matter is how you loved, what you learned and how you applied this knowledge.
2. Take full responsibility for your goals. – If you really want good things in your life to happen, you have to make them happen yourself.  You can’t sit around and hope that somebody else will help you; you have to make your own future and not think that your destiny is tied to the actions and choices of others.  Read Quitter.
3. Know your worth. – When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself fromthe equation.  Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do.  Because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you.  It’s not pride – it’s self-respect.  Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people.  Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life.  Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
4. Choose the right perspective. – Perspective is everything.  When faced with long check-out lines, traffic jams, or waiting an hour past your appointment time, you have two choices:  You can get frustrated and enraged, or you can view it as life’s way of giving you a guilt-free breather from rushing, and spend that time daydreaming, conversing, or watching the clouds.  The first choice will raise your blood pressure.  The second choice will raise your consciousness.
5. Don’t let your old problems punish your dreams.  – Learn to let go of things you can’t control.  The next time you’re tempted to rant about a situation that you think ended unfairly, remind yourself of this:  You’ll never kill off your anger by beating the story to death.  So close your mouth, unclench your fists, and redirect your thoughts.  When left untended, the anger will slowly wither, and you’ll be left to live in peace as you grow toward a better future.
6. Choose the things that truly matter. – Some things just don’t matter much – like the kind of car you drive.  How big of a deal is that in the grand scheme of life?  Not a big at all.  But lifting a person’s heart?  Now, that matters.  The whole problem with most people is, they KNOW what matters, but they don’t CHOOSE it.  They get distracted.  They don’t put first things first.  The hardest and smartest way to live is choosing what truly matters, and pursuing it passionately.  Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
7. Love YOU. – Let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are.  Yes, let someone love you despite all of this; and let that someone be YOU.
8. Accept your strengths and weaknesses. – Be confident being YOU.  We often waste too much time comparing ourselves to others, and wishing to be something we’re not.  Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it is only when we accept everything we are, and aren’t, that we are able to become who we are capable of being.
9. Stand up for YOU. – You were born to be real, not to be perfect.  You’re here to be YOU, not to be what someone else wants you to be.  Stand up for yourself, look them in the eye, and say, “Don’t judge me until you know me, don’t underestimate me until you challenge me, and don’t talk about me until you’ve talked to me.”
10. Learn from others, and move on when you must. – You can’t expect to change people.  Either you accept who they are, or you start living your life without them.  And just because something ends, doesn’t mean it never should have been.  You lived, you learned, you grew, and you moved on.  Some people come into your life as blessings; others come into your life as lessons.
11. Be honest in your relationships. – Don’t cheat!  If you’re not happy, be honest, and move on if you must.  When you’re truly in love, being faithful isn’t a sacrifice, it’s a joy.
12. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. – Life as we know it can change in a blink of an eye.  Unlikely friendships can blossom, important careers can be tossed aside and a long lost hope can be rekindled.  It might feel a little uncomfortable at times, but know that life begins at the end of your comfort zone.  So if you’re feeling uncomfortable right now, know that the change taking place in your life is not an ending, but a new beginning.  Read The Power of Full Engagement.
13. Be who you were born to be. – Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.  When it comes to living as a passionate, inspired human being, the only challenge greater than learning to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, is learning to walk a lifetime comfortably in your own.  Follow your heart, and take your brain with you.  When you are truly comfortable in your own skin, not everyone will like you, but you won’t care about it one bit.
14. Never give up on YOU. – This is your life; shape it, or someone else will.  Strength shows not only in the ability to hold on, but in the ability to start over when you must.  It is never too late to become what you might have been.  Keep learning, adapting, and growing.  You may not be there yet, but you are closer than you were yesterday.  Sourced from Marc and angel Hack Life  http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/05/23/14-rules-for-being-you/

10 Things You Must Give Up To Be Successful

When we think about how to achieve success, we often focus on the skills and habits we should add to our lives.  But sometimes the key to success actually lies in our ability to give up certain habits and behaviors.  So starting today…

1. Give up the habit of waiting. – The way you spend your time defines who you are.  You don’t get to choose how you are going to die, or when; you can only decide how you are going to live right now.  Trust me, a year from now you will wish you had started today.  Read The Now Habit.
2. Give up the excuses. – Sooner or later you will come to realize that it’s not what you lose along the way that counts; it’s what you do with what you still have.  When you let go, forgive, and move on, you in no way change the past, you change the future.
3. Give up trying to be perfect. – Sometimes we try to show the world that we are flawless in hopes that we will be liked and accepted by everyone.  But we can’t please everyone, and we shouldn’t try.  The beauty of us lies in our vulnerability, our love, our complex emotions – our authentic imperfections.  When we embrace who we are and decide to be authentic, instead of perfect, we open ourselves up to real relationships, real happiness, and real success.  There is no need to put on a mask.  There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not.  You are perfectly imperfect just the way you are.
4. Give up doing things you know are wrong. – Nothing is more damaging to you than doing something that you believe is wrong.  Your beliefs alone don’t help you grow and thrive, your behavior and actions do.  So always do what you know in your heart is right, for you.
5. Give up feelings of entitlement. – Nobody owes you anything.  When you approach life with the false sense that you are owed things, you will naturally become less productive and constantly find yourself disappointed by reality.  When you are grateful for what you have, and see positive things as bonuses, versus owed entitlements, you will earn great successes gradually as you grow.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
6. Give up relationships that want you to be someone else. – The best kind of relationship is the one that makes you a better person without changing you into someone other than yourself.
7. Give up letting others decide what you can and can’t do. – In order to live your own authentic life, you have to follow YOUR inner GPS, not someone else’s.  When others say, “You can’t do it!” or “That’s impossible,” don’t lose hope.  Just because they couldn’t doesn’t mean you can’t.
8. Give up being a helpless victim. – Yes, it is unfortunate that sometimes bad things happen to the best of people.  Life can be unfair, unkind and unjust.  However, being stuck in a victim mentality does not nurture your ability to move onward and upward.  You’ve got to stand back up and take positive steps to heal and grow.
9. Give up worrying about past failures. – Accept your past without regret, handle your presence with confidence, and face your future without fear.  You are today where your thoughts and actions have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts and actions take you.  Read How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.
10. Give up blaming everyone else. – Either you own your situation or it will own you.  Either you take responsibility for your life, or someone else will.  Blame is a scapegoat – it’s an easy way out of taking accountability for your own outcome.  It’s a lot easier to point the finger at someone or something else instead of looking within.  Blame is not constructive; it does not help you or anyone else – nobody wins in the blame game.  The amount of energy and stress it takes to place blame elsewhere takes away from your ability to move forward and find a real solution.

And remember, the road you are traveling may be the more challenging one, but don’t lose faith.  Don’t listen to the doubters, don’t let setbacks keep you down, and most of all, don’t give up on yourself.

It’s okay if you don’t know how much more you can handle.  It’s fine if you don’t know exactly what to do next.  Eventually you’ll let go of how things ‘should be’ and start to see all the great possibilities in front of you.  This is your life – grab the wheel with both hands and keep steering yourself in the right direction. Culled from Marc and Angel Hack Life 

http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/06/04/10-things-you-must-give-up-to-be-successful/

10 Enemies of Personal Greatness

1. Always taking the path of least resistance. – Just because you are struggling does NOT mean you are failing.  Every great success requires some kind of struggle to get there.  Good things don’t come to those who wait.  Good things come to those who work hard and struggle to pursue the goals and dreams they believe in.  Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.
2. Comparing yourself to everyone else. – You will never fully believe in yourself if you keep comparing yourself to everyone else.  Being true to yourself in thoughts, words and actions is as important as being kind and true to others.
3. Worrying too much about what others think of you. – As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them.  Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you ownyourself.  If you’re being true to yourself and it isn’t enough for the people around you, change the people around you.
4. Ignoring your gut instincts. – There’s a difference between being agreeable and agreeing to everything.  Give yourself permission to immediately walk away from anything that gives you bad vibes.  There is no need to explain or make sense of it.  Just trust the little inner voice when it’s telling you, “This is a bad idea.”
5. Holding on when you need to move on. – Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting, it means you choose happiness over hurt.  Sometimes you have to love people from a distance and give them the space and time to get their minds right before you let them back into your life.
6. Living in the past. – If you don’t leave your past in the past, it will destroy your future.  Live for what today has to offer, not for what yesterday has taken away.  Life is a journey that is only traveled once.  Today’s moments quickly become tomorrow’s memories.  So appreciate every moment for what it is, because the greatest gift of life is life itself. Read The Power of Now.
7. Doing the wrong things just because others are too. – Wrong is wrong, even if everyone is doing it.  Right is right, even if you are the only one doing it.  Always do what you know in your heart is right, for you.
8. Allowing small problems to overwhelm you. – Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today but eventually.  When you’re upset, ask yourself, “Will this matter to me in a year’s time?”  Most of the time it won’t.  Remember, sometimes bad things in life open up your eyes to the good things you weren’t paying attention to before.
9. Surrendering to the draw of comfort. – The most common and harmful addiction in the world is the draw of comfort.  Why pursue greatness when you’ve already got 324 channels and a recliner?  Just pass the chip dip and forget about your grand plans.  NO!  The truth is growth begins at the end of your comfort zone.  Stepping outside of your comfort zone will put things into perspective from an angle you can’t grasp now, and open doors of opportunity that would otherwise not exist.  Read The Power of Habit.
10. NOT believing that you CAN. – If we don’t know that greatness is possible, we won’t bother attempting it.  All too often, we literally do not know any better than good enough.  Sometimes you have to try to do what you think you can’t do, so you realize that you actually CAN.  And sometimes it takes more than one attempt.  If ‘Plan A’ doesn’t work out, don’t fret; the alphabet has another 25 letters that would be happy to give you a chance to get it right.  The wrong choices usually bring us to the right places, eventually.  But you must believe in your own potential to get there.       Sourced from Marc and Angel Hack Life  http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/06/06/10-enemies-of-personal-greatness/

Being the Authentic You

It’s difficult to truly and honestly be who you are. It is difficult in this our present world where we all want to fit it. It so difficult, in fact, that many people don’t make the attempt of being there original self.

And yet, it is even more difficult to continue, day after day, year after year, to deny the beautiful, unique reality of who you are. Though it is hard and demanding work to be you, it is the most satisfying and fulfilling thing you can do with your time.

For it is by being true to your purpose that you fill your world and your experience with exquisite richness. The real, true you is who can offer the very most value, comfort, encouragement and joy to others, to the world, and to all of life.

Living each moment and each situation with uncompromising authenticity is a difficult, inconvenient and often embarrassing choice. Even so, it is far and away the best choice you can make, not only for yourself but also for everything else you care about.

There is great and unique beauty within you. That beauty longs to, and absolutely deserves to see the light of day. Start being you now... Ralph

30 things you need to stop doing to yourself

I stumbled upon this article and decided to share it with you. If you have not read anything on this blog before, please try and read this piece. I am sure its bound to change something in you.

1 Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

2 Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.


3 Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
4 Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5 Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you likeeveryone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

To read more, please follow this link http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/

A very big thank you

Good day everyone, how was your weekend? Mine was hectic yet beautiful. It was superb. I had one of the best weekends of my life. I loved every part of it. 

Well, its a new week so let's make the best out of it. Put your mind to work on whatever you are set to do. Have a solid, well written plan for the week, focus on attaining on all the goals you have set out for yourself, have a determined mind to see them achieved, don't procrastinate and remember to pray. That is the key to achieving success. I have heard of a man that said ' He was so much in a hurry to finish the day's activities that he has just two hours to pray every morning'. Two hours in the morning. He knew the importance of prayer that he always finished his set objectives no matter how numerous daily.

Before I go, let me gist you of how how my birthday went down. I didn't have to iron as I intended. In fact, I didn't touch a thing called iron. It was 'merrying' all day. So much to drink and eat. However, that wasn't  the most important part of the day.  The sweetness of the day started when I started receeiving messages.

I made I thanksgiving prayer till around 12am and boom! The first BB message and the rest I couldn't note. They were troops of messages text, FB, twitter and I was wowed! I couldn't keep up with responding to them. Some were wishing me well, some prayers, some 'ganster' types, some were admonishments, different forms. I really do appreciate them.

Then calls came in the day from various people, some expected some surprising. Then all my Blackberry contacts that knew me directly had their display pictures up for me. I was thrilled. I got the sweetest greeting when Folabi and Ife sent me a voice message, best encouraging words when Funmi Adedeji-Aluko called me for over 10mins, most surprising picture display when Thorby said she had waited months to use 'that' picture of mine as her dp,  most surprising call from my sweet mum -Mrs Ogunjobi, the longest call when Uncle Abo called and that call was the most hilarious,  most emotional outburst when I responded Yusuf's message (he was d 1st to send a message to me *Thanks Bro* ), the best hug from Olamipo, best gift from Opeyemi  and the most exciting moment, when my RIGHT HAND MEN showed up. It was fun all day.

I really want to use this medium to thank my family members - BOB, Symbol, Yombols, Shopsy, Cindy,  Dupsy, Pepisco, Adex, Sisqo G, Beejay, 'Mo, Fola, A.I.R, Peejay, Mizzle, Dami, Uncle T'abo, Tosino, Papuchillo, Anty Folake, Sister Sade, Anty Shade, Olamipo, Base. 4, Loosh, Quuen Proxy, Shalewa, endless...

My friends too numerous to mention like Tola, Tope, Titi, Lanre, Kenny, Thorby, Wyclef, Kolade, Fola, Goro, Chino, Oge, Sherifat, Stanley,  Chidi, Yomi, Bola, Florence, Mama niyen, Bolu, David, Adam, Tolu, MSB, Wale, Isaac, Ife Adebayo, Joseph, Shakur, Yetunde, Desola, Hollar, Oyinlola, Dara,  Funmi, Adiga, Kole, Olakay, Segun, Iwayemi, Lanre, Sleek, Seun, Ifedunni, Ojelabi, ACE Dude, Akeem, Tutuola, Freda and others.

My friends that wished me well via Facebook (i dear not try to write those names because there wont be space to do so, and am sure my memory will fail me)

My RHM - Hydee, Sean and Ibk. My super-special sweetheart - Opeyemi.

Please, if your name isn't mentioned, it doesn't make you less important to me. You are always appreciated.

I thank everybody here-mentioned or not, for making me know that I am loved. I give glory to God for endowing me with beautiful people- you guys are the best.

To my wonderful parents,you are always loved.

That's a picture of me and my cake. Its still remaining and If you want, ring me.

NB:  Please, I need a PA to respond to my over 200 posts on FB.

Joobreel

Witness the Rebirth: My New World Order

Hello people, I am highly privileged to share this very important piece of information with you. It involves just a minor but very vital change. This ‘small change’ is pivotal to the next coming events. The change will come as surprise to many of you who knew me before now but it is compulsory it gets done.

The President of Nigeria, in his 2012 democracy day speech made a ‘change’ that generated a lot of interests.  A lot of statements, comments, press releases; plenty titles, captions and headings of emotional outburst were all over the place. Lecturers, Lawyers, Social Activists, Politicians, Alumni, students, empathizers…everybody all had something to say.  The community – students and staff- that was directly affected cried foul. They take pride in what they possess – the name UNILAG.

UNILAG is a name a meaning Nigerian youth will want to have on his CV. It’s a signature, a brand. This change by the president sparked up a spontaneous and most unprecedented, non-political motivated protest by this peace-loving community.  A change will either make you a break you. It can either thwart or propel you. One can never remain the same again after such a change. MAULAG will ruin the glory of UNILAG.

God, our creator, knows the importance of change. In the beginning, He changed the form of the earth. He separated light from darkness before He could proceed to other events. He personally saw to the change of Abram to Abraham, Sarai to Sarah, Jacob to Israel amongst others. Simon was rechristened Peter – ‘the Rock’. Those are powerful pointers to reasons why change is important. Abram had to become Abraham to become father of nations, Simon to Peter that the church might be built upon him. I am yet to see a man that had that ‘change’ to Judas. I have not met one.

When a change is necessary, it can be delayed. But when that change is compulsory, no time must be wasted. The change must be effected immediately without prejudice, fear or sentiment. I have seen ‘Abereola’ changed to ‘Sam-Abereola‘, ‘Ogunsanya’ to ‘Olusanya’, ‘Amoniyan’ to ‘Bolade’, ‘Agbogunleri’ to ‘Alli’. They were unavoidable changes, they were implemented.

About this time some 29 years ago, a particular woman was in the process of childbirth. She was in labor. She wanted a child that will carry on the family name, she wanted a boy. And behold, she brought forth a child- a son, as she wanted. He was christened Olamide Jubril. His surname, he inherited by commission.

But on this day the 9th of June 2012, I announce to you the rebirth of that son. I formerly known as agbogunleri, Olamide Jubril make this declaration that forthwith; I should be addressed as OLANREWAJU, OLAMIDE JUBRIL.

Welcome to the New World Order!

Joobreel

A robot should do

Need me a robot

See, free that talk. There are things I know I can do very well. No be for mouth. One of them is looking good. I sometimes look pretty.  (That ‘pretty’ word can earn me 14 years o). But seriously, from ankara to atiku, lace to linen, guinea to batik (most of them are aso-ebi anyways) or getting some super-cool materials for regular shirts, non-conventional tops and the likes; all there is to be done is for either Samson, Erons, Frank, Mikky or Quddus to carve them. These guys must pay for this advert.
And if it’s to 'combinason' (Jenifa's style) Polos or tees with denims or pants, I hail myself. A special thanks to my fashion and style consultant. #winks. Flipping through the pages of magazines is not beans. And even when I go like the new CBN policy- cashless, I still always appear like a Nigerian Senator. Ooshe!
Here is the real deal not legend stout o, one of the prices to pay is getting those clothes back to shape after use. It’s big a price and it’s getting to me real good. I got home yesterday night and had to take some clothes off the line that I left for drying after washing. Washing is no biggy as Oyinbo in their numerous ways have made it easier. But ironing those clothes? Chai! Na there wahala de o.

As I dropped the new off-the-line clothes on a bed in the room where I left the previous ones, it occurred clearly to me that ironing is not my hobby at all. Singlets, boxer’s shorts, shirts, denims, pants, name them; all of them 'yapa' on top the bed. Already washed, not yet ironed. Some date as far back as 3 weeks.

 Since the white people didn't do ironing machine, an ironing robot is all I desire. So if you have the means, please buy me one. And mind you, I will only accept the one that is battery-powered because I use a PAYGO NEPA meter. If the minister of power fit de import energy-saving bulbs, who I be to de consume light anyhow? Another alternative is for you to direct me to someone that irons only. But that too will cost me.
Hmm, got it! I will dedicate this Saturday for ironing all these clothes. Yes! That's the best thing to do. But that day happens to be my birthday. That means no groove, no party, no drinks, no food, just ironing. Therefore if in your mind, you (Stanley, Tutuola, Oyin, Okey, Seun, Alero, Tobi etc) have been thinking how it is going down, just forget it.
It’s ironing all the way. Come over to my place and let’s iron.
Hehehe
Joobreel

My Death

Let me tell you about the day I died. I was in a plane crash. I remember the last few minutes so well.  Maybe not so well  because there was so much pandemonium in that small space. At first I thought it was the usual turbulence except it wasn’t. Do you think the crew alerted us to the imminent danger? Not until my head hit the air vent did it dawn on me that we were going down.

Let me tell you about the day a plane crashed into our building. We were watching a soap opera that Sunday evening. We were all tired because the day before was my 10th birthday and we’d had a party. Of course everyone was at home. My only solace was that we didn’t see or hear anything. We just died.

Did I tell you what I was doing when that big plane crashed into our street? Well, nothing interesting. I’d just come out with my bag of corn and I was setting up my fire place. I’d made good sales the day before and believed God for a better day. I remember thinking, "Finally, Tochi will have the money for that hand-out she said was so urgent."

I want you to believe me when I tell you that I survived a plane crash. Yes I survived the impact of the crash and spent 10 minutes trying to smash the window. I succeeded in smashing the first but as I geared up to hit the second, I heard the explosion. I increased my effort but the resulting smoke enveloped me. I remember giving in - thinking how close I came to escape.

The day I died, I remember thinking just before the plane hit that busy street, the “air crash investigation” episode I’d seen the previous night. I wondered how this crash would be investigated. Will it be? I wondered who the producers will cast in the reconstruction, should there be one. Who would play John, my co-pilot and Nick, the engineer?

Lucas Togan (@LTSPARK)

Selling the Presidential Jets

Mrs. Joyce Banda of Malawi is the second female president in africa. I didnt like her for supporting same sex marriage in order to accrue cheap foreign aids from Western Nations.

Now I am having a change of mind when she decided to sell the country's only presidential jet and 60 Mercedes Limousines in the president's fleet. She flew to the Queen's Jubilee celebration in a British Airways plane. The presidential jet has an annual running cost of about E220,000. This is a measure she has taken to overturn the bad decisions of previous government.

The president of Nigeria has 11 private jets. ( what is 11 sef when a pastor has 4?) He met 9 on ground and bought 2 more. The cost of running these luxury air buses we would never know. If in Malawi they spend that much, what will be said of Nigeria where our president, first lady and the others travel like they are moving from Lekki to Victoria Island?

My questions are these. Is it possible for Mr. president to sell 10 of those things at least he can use just 1 at a time? Oh! The wife will use 1, the senate president 1, the PDP chairman 1, the two first children 1 each, special adviser will share 1... the lost is endless.
If the prime minister of Britain doesn't have a private jet and travels in commercial airlines, why cant our politicians do same?
If public servants of this nation stop taking chartered/private flights especially for their local travels, will the state of our aviation industry be like this?
Would there be incessant plane crashes if the first family and their numerous accolades take public flights?

 The aviation minister said the reports of the SOSOLISO and ADC airlines crashes that happened eons ago are ready but pending approval before it can be released. Help me to ask her 'when is the earliest possible time to expect the report of the DANA crash'? When?
Joobreel

Choice

What has already happened before is not what will happen next. Because right now, you have the opportunity to change direction.

If you’re moving in a positive and fruitful direction, you can choose to keep going that way, and even to accelerate your progress. Or, if you’ve experienced difficulty and disappointment in the past, this is your time to make a change.

When you focus on what’s already happened, it can be easy to feel permanently stuck in a bad place. So focus instead on the fact that you can, right now, choose a more positive direction.

Today is a new day, and it is your day to live in the best way you can imagine. It is your day to move in precisely the direction you choose.

Though rising above a difficult past will require great effort and commitment on your part, you certainly can do it. And there’s no better way to spend your time than making your way forward and permanently locking your disappointments in the past.

The disappointments of the past will begin to fade away as soon as you let go of them. Let go, look forward, and know that you can make this next day the best one yet ... Ralph

The too many roaches in my apartment

These things don tire me o. How would I explain killing an average of five cockroaches in my apartment weekly? Which mouth I wan take talk am? I need help ASAP!

How on earth did these nonsense things find their ways into a newly finished flat in a newly completed building? Were they sent? Abi na me be there papa ni? What exactly are they looking for because I don’t have crumbs of foods littering the house? Every part of the house is always squeaky-clean. And when I say squeaky-clean, I am damn serious. Yet these flying nuisances display themselves like they own the place.

I have used a number of naija-made insecticides (make I no yarn names go fall some companies hand) all to no avail. I consoled myself that probably all the insecticides in my area are fakes. The things got to me so much I cried out. Then I realized it wasn’t just me, it’s a general problem. My neighbors are having a fair dose of theirs too .I laff a big laff wen dem tell me their own tori.

We concluded we would fumigate the whole compound and the apartments which we did. We consulted one of the numerous supposed fumigators that have their phone numbers written boldly on most walls on the streets of Lagos (You definitely know those numbers now). Na lie, the ting no work. So we called him that we still see roaches. He said the ‘nest’ of the roaches would definitely be from the foundation or inside the roof of the building. That is why they didn't all die. Na so the story end!

So if you come to my house for whatsoever ever reason and cockroaches try to kiss you or compete for chairs, just chill. They are my flat mates for now. Since I have tried all I could and I can’t  ‘uproot’ my landlord’s house, neither can I dismantle nor go into the roof to look for their source, you will have to bear with me. I am not giving up on the fight though. If you please have any solution to this dilemma of mine, kindly proffer it. I am not tired to keep fighting them. Not now! Not Never!

It looks like joke but a no dey joke o. I need answers fast. #crying

Joobreel

Still on the matter...

The following unedited chat ensued after my a big brother of mine read the blog. could lack of adeqaute mentorship be the bane of Mr President's trouble. Peruse through the BB chat and make contributions.
lets go
Participants:
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__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_, PP

Messages:
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PP:
I think he likes goin by the book
PP:
He sometimes needs to use his executive powers
PP:
In that way he will probably annoy some people
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
But he has never for once used the power he possesses? Reason y som ppl think he is weak
PP:
Forcing some of the pple bankrolling the chaos to loose their cool
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
But sir, shd he keep being docile despite knowing the culprits behind the chaos and turmoil  the nation is. Going through?
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
Because he doesn't want to roughen some pples feathers?
PP:
Yeah
PP:
That's y I feel he was not well schooled in the art of leadership
PP:
I think he severed relationship too early with his political godfathers
PP:
Na soo
PP:
I know he has gud intentions for nigeria
PP:
But nig needs pple like obj
PP:
Abacha and their likes
PP:
Unorthodox leaders
PP:
Jonathan is not one
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
Hmmm. Word!
PP:
The matter is complicated further by the fact that he is not a hausa nor of muslim extraction
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
Then he shd just keep his mute come 2015 then
PP:
I hope so too
PP:
Or alternatively I hope a better candidate emerges
PP:
Someone with strength of character
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
But. We. Have had muslim and hausa leaders now, then didn't do much good either
PP:
We had less crisis as well
PP:
So while the economy or standard of livin was suffering, people were safe
PP:
So there was no widespread anger against the president
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
So that's d game hausas are playing against our toothless president.  neva saw things this way. Hmmm!
PP:
I think jonathan to me now seems to be the most unpopular president in nigerian history
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
 think so too. He has been rated worse than abacha sef
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
His crime now is because he is not well grounded in nigerian politics.  pity d guy
PP:
Boko haram is not a sy problem
PP:
Its a religious n political issue
PP:
Wait until one prominent hausa man is killed
PP:
Boko haram will cease that day
PP:
Of course
PP:
He has no ideology
PP:
Abacha was harsh
PP:
He needed to keep obj on board for a longer period
PP:
Yeah
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
He was too much in a hurry to show what he can do on his own. He screwed up! If Obj is still wt him, he will have faired beta dan dis
PP:
He shd have made him more relevant
PP:
So he could ride on his experience n political clout
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
Hmmm!
PP:
Most likely
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
Maybe he wanted to quickly dissociate from Obj cos pple he think he was just going to be a puppet while obj ll be running d country from behind.
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
He wanted to prove a point.
PP:
Yeah
PP:
We aLl need mentors
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
Yeah! We really do need dem. Thanks for ur insight.
PP:
He could have done more smoothly but maintain d link
PP:
Lol
PP:
It was nice
PP:
Gistin wit ya man
PP:
Thanks to bb
PP:
:)
__̅_̅̅_̅̅̅  Joobreel®™Olamide  _̅̅̅_̅̅_̅_:
U r welcome  sir;

Is my president really weak?

Who is Goodluck Jonathan? Is he truly Just On National Assignment To Harm All Nigerians as some flickers from some quarters have tagged him? Could a 'man- without- shoes' when he was campaigning to be president aims be to harm us in this our nation Nigeria? Or has he changed now that he has hundreds of them? Could it be that he has become insensitive to the plights of the common man because he claimed to be a common man like us when he was campaigning rigorously after ascending to the position of the Acting President when his predecessor died in office? Could it just be by chance that my president is being continuously ill-advised by those that surround him or some of the members of his workforce are really plotting his downfall? Are the numerous special advisers and assistants that orchestrate all his actions be the culprits behind the mishaps he dishes to the citizenry?

 How about the ‘northern powers’ that promised to make Nigeria ungovernable for him, are they the ones at work? Are they the drummers behind the shameful dance of our president? I don't want to believe they are responsible for the numerous bombings and kidnaps just in the name of making the nation difficult to run. 'Naija' must really be in the waters with turbulent waves if these power mongers are the culprit behind the wide-spread hardship in this nation.

My president once said he knows these people. He admitted the trouble-makers are Nigerians with known faces. He openly confessed these evil perpetrators live among us. What then is Goodluck Jonathan waiting for to arrest this situation? Can’t he apprehend these elements of discord? Can’t GEJ use all his machineries as the most powerful president in the world (at least some referred to him as that during the fuel-subsidy saga) to bring these supposed ‘enemies of his tenure’ to book? What is the Nigerian Police Force for, receiving bribes and handouts from motorists? No! They are supposed to work the works for which they have been called for. We have the States Secrets Service Agents, are they for decorations. Maybe these people are more powerful to be toyed with. Maybe they are too big for our SSS and Police. Or are these trouble-fomenting northern politicians just one of our propaganda?

Wait a minute; is Mr. Goodluck really in charge of the affairs of this nation Nigeria? Am I thinking that someone that found himself by chance at helms of affairs of African most populous country isn’t a good politician?  Maybe not being a super-politician was the origin of his problems. Could it be that he is just adrift and not in control of the happenings around him? Has he left his primary duty as the Chief Security Officer to the supposed security chiefs he has. Has Mr. Ebele resigned to faith that he is incapable to running this country and just waiting for his tenure to elapse? Who knows? My mind is running amok over these disturbing questions that await answers.

Could the saying that ‘Nigeria is too complex for him to handle’ be true? Has the system so collapsed that it can’t be revamped by mere good luck? Has the state of the nation so degenerated that it will take a stronger-willed person to restore Nigeria to her past glory?  Could it be that my president is just taking his time, waiting for the right time to player his joker?

These amongst many other questions bother me when I think about this big ship – Nigeria. And when a ship sinks, the captain is held responsible.

Mr Goodluck Ebele Jonathan has been tagged ‘weak’ when he cried at the scene of the Dana Crash that occurred in Lagos where 153 persons died. So I am beginning to wonder, if my president is really weak? Is he strong enough to steer this ship to shore safely? Time will tell.

Joobreel

My first blog

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